Yes, your mind—that is, your thoughts— can change your brain. Odd as it may sound, you rewire your brain as you create new thought patterns. The more you practice a new thinking habit, the more the same neurons learn to work together and wire together. As neuroscientists say, neurons that fire together wire together. In other words, “…directed, willed mental activity can clearly and systematically alter brain function.”
What you can do: Deliberately change your self-talk. For example, if you tend to wallow in frustration and anger when you make mistakes, practice telling yourself, “Mistakes are just part of life. I will make a conscious effort to learn from my mistakes.” Or write down the self-talk you’d like to adopt in a given situation, then recite it to yourself when needed.
I need help with a problem, but I don't want to talk to anyone I know. You need someone to talk to about a problem, but you don't want to burden your friends or family members. You also don't want to talk to a stranger.
Solution: Counselling provides a safe and confidential space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings. You will be able to talk to a trained professional who can help you work through your problem.